Unfortunately, feelings are not forever. Lovers do not always manage to overcome the trials that fell on their joint path. Betrayal, quarrels, attrition of characters and new hobbies ... - all this gradually leads to separation. During this time, many grievances, omissions, disappointments accumulate that partners at some point spill over at each other. But it does not become easier. "Parting is a little death." Even if the initiator of the gap was a woman, she still “grieves” for a long time over the past. This makes it difficult to move on, to build new relationships. The situation seems stalemate. And to avoid it, you need to learn how to complete the relationship.
"Pros and cons"
Before taking a step, consider which way you want to go. Perhaps the decision to part was spontaneous and it’s worth to drop emotions and think again. If you are quite unbearable to be close to your man, do not rush to show their dislike. Prepare yourself for a calm, constructive conversation.
Time and place
For a conversation, choose a day when you and your man will be free from problems and fuss. So that nothing and nothing distract and knock you out of your thoughts. It is better to hold a conversation outside the house: in a cafe, park or some other place. If only the situation was calm, relaxing and devoid of affection for the common past.
Final word
In conversation, do not dodge and speak in riddles and half-hints. Immediately identify the topic of the conversation, your decision and arguments. See your man in the eye, but without challenge and irritability. Tact has not been canceled! Give a word to the interlocutor. If your partner reacts too violently to your words, try to stay calm. End the conversation with a short, meaningful phrase (for example: "this is my final decision"), apologize and leave your (already former) partner alone with your thoughts.
The rule of three "not"
Do not reassure the man with promises to remain friends. It is unlikely that this will succeed immediately after the break. Do not give hope that in the future, perhaps you will be together again. A man will be waiting for you, and, not waiting, will throw out something out of the ordinary. After the break, you do not have to meet, call up or chat with your former partner. Be tough! If a man bothers you with calls, ignore him.
After parting
Despite the fact that it was in a relationship, after a break you need to behave with dignity. Let your intimate moments, features of character, habits remain in the "personal chest". Do not say nasty things, reveal the secrets of a former partner. Even if he behaves ugly towards you, do not respond to him in the same way. Be taller!
Walking away from a man in English is moveton. Playing hide and seek and catch up to nothing. Parting should be worthy! To tell the truth in the eye, to immediately break off the relationship, until it became worse - the surest decision. Perhaps in the future a man will say thank you ...
Text: Katerina Pchelnikova
